Author: Nitin Agarwal

The first thing is to be absolutely honest about yourself. Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets.

Accent the things that make you unique. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor.

Now you must write that all-important profile … the one that will attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams … but where to start? Maybe writing isn’t even something you think you do all that well.

Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel worthwhile and useful, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you if not join you in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.

The picture is the FIRST thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself.

The picture is the FIRST thing men see.

Describe the things that are vital in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel worthwhile and useful, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you if not join you in your volunteer projects. You will attract men who share your values when you get beyond superficial things.

The attraction stage involves flirting and projecting an attractive image. We also take as much care as possible to appear at our best. The next stage is when we decide to take things to the next level, usually sexually. From there it doesn’t take much hinting to let him know that if he doesn’t take you to bed soon, you may direct all that pent up passion in someone else’s direction.
Think back on the beginning of your relationship.

There are three stages in any relationship:
1) Attraction
2) Seduction
3) Abandon or maintain Ship
The attraction stage involves flirting and projecting an attractive image. We also take as much care as possible to appear at our best.

The next stage is when we decide to take things to the next level, usually sexually. We bring out our sexiest lingerie and scent ourselves with the most seductive perfumes and body oils imaginable. From there it doesn’t take much hinting to let him know that if he doesn’t take you to bed soon, you may direct all that pent up passion in someone else’s direction.
3) Finally there is the maintenance or abandon ship stage. This is the area where most of us get into trouble.
Here are the errors in judgment that most of us make:
1) We don’t take as much care with our appearance. Think back on the beginning of your relationship. How many times did you wear sweatpants in front of him then?
Are you taking the same amount of time applying your makeup as you did back then? When was the last time you brushed your teeth or had a breath mint before you kissed him?
2) We slack on our exercise routine. When we are trying to attract the love of our lives, we exercise, eat more salads and generally are so infatuated that we forget to eat.
At the last stage of a relationship, our gym membership cards seem to get lost and in its place we find Ben and Jerry’s and a chocolate cake.
3) We forget to keep the mystery in our relationships.
Did you actually use the toilet in front of him when you were first dating? Of course not! Don’t let yourself get so comfortable that you forget that bodily functions are not the high point of romance.
4) We criticize instead of admiring his best points. In the beginning he was wonderful and I am sure that you told him so. When was the last time you paid him a compliment lately?
Finding a man and seducing him is the easy part, despite our occasional slumps. It is the work that you put in to keeping the seduction, flirtation, mystery and romance that will keep him on board or send him scurrying to abandon ship.

Part of the reason we have difficulty attracting men who make us happy is because we believe that such men don’t really exist. We believe that to attract a man we have to be the prettiest girl in the room, have the biggest breasts on the block, the tightest abs, and so on.
And then, as we’re minding our own business on the supermarket check-out line, we glimpse a headline on a magazine cover: “Jessica’s Hotter Than Ever! How Can Nick Leave Her Now?” The subtext is, if a fox like Jessica Simpson can’t hold on to a man, what chance do the rest of us have?
Even if your tastes in literature run to feminist authors like Susan Faludi and Naomi Wolf over, say, periodicals like In Touch and The Star, you’re probably influenced by the negative messages we’re fed by the media. I know I was.

Many of my favorite female artists sing of being suicidal over the loss of a guy. A lot of my favorite male artists sing about hurting women, hating women, or running through them like pints of beer.
It’s one thing to enjoy popular music, but be aware of the whacked-out ideas it can weld into your brain if you’re not paying attention: 1) You’re nothing without a guy, and 2) You’re a disposable object that can be easily replaced.
The next time you leave the house know this: You are one of a kind and irreplaceable. You don’t need a guy, but if you’re going to have one, he must love you for you (not your body parts, your money, or your clothes).
Once you love yourself, really and truly love yourself (because of who you are inside, as opposed to the fact that you just forked over $450 to have your teeth whitened), you will attract better men.
Good men definitely exist. Once you become that woman, you will magically find yourself enjoying a happy, angst-free relationship with a guy who’s in it for the long term.

Part of the reason we have difficulty attracting men who make us happy is because we believe that such men don’t really exist. We believe that to attract a man we have to be the prettiest girl in the room, have the biggest breasts on the block, the tightest abs, and so on. We must stay on our toes to make sure somebody prettier, smarter, or whatever doesn’t sneak up and snatch our man. The subtext is, if a fox like Jessica Simpson can’t hold on to a man, what chance do the rest of us have?

As a Master Certified Relationship Coach, I work with singles to help them attract a great match and with couples to help put their relationships back on track. I hear great feedback from my clients about the value of coaching.
I think everyone can benefit from having a coach– coaching can contribute that much to your life. Which is why you may be interested in seeing what some of my clients have said about the value they received from coaching.
Here is a list of the top ten benefits my clients say they have derived from having a relationship coach:

1. “I finally met my match.”
   Clients repeatedly credit having a relationship coach for their ability to finally meet their match, a partner unlike any other they have had. In this relationship– in addition to attraction– there is true compatibility in values, interests, and desire for personal growth.
2. “I regained hope.”
   Thanks to coaching, clients regained hope in love, regained hope in meeting the right partner, regained hope in getting married, perhaps even having children. They understand they can be loved and that there is a right partner for them.

1. “I never have to repeat that horrible pattern again.”
   Relationship coaching has helped people free themselves from unhealthy relationship patterns. These are the kinds of patterns where you end up with the same partner, only with a different face, over and over again.
2. “I learned how to read people.”
   Coaching has helped clients learn to understand their own and others’ motivations. It helped them learn how to clearly see people for who they are.
3. “I finally know exactly how to date.”
   When dating, clients credit relationship coaching for their newfound clarity about what to do and not to do. They no longer have to worry about whether they are doing the right thing. They can now relax and be themselves.
4. “I learned how to have great communication in a relationship.”
   Clients have learned how to create an environment where great communication happens. More than that, they never have to hold back, put up with something, or stuff their feelings. And neither do their partners.
5. “I never have to worry about a broken heart out of the blue again.”
   Clients say they have learned how to avoid heartbreakers. They also say they have learned how to establish relationships where problems are handled long before they lead to heartbreak.
6. “I learned how to deal with difficult situations in relationships.”
   Clients say that now instead of being afraid their relationship will go south after the “honeymoon” period, they know how to handle a relationship no matter what stage it’s in.
7. “I’ve seen an improvement in all my relationships.”
   Relationship coaching has helped clients improve all their relationships– from employees, coworkers and bosses, to parents, siblings and children. The improved relationships make for a better, easier, more fulfilled life, which in turn improves the romantic relationships.
8. “I can stand up for myself.”
   Clients say they have learned that personal strength, boundaries, and self respect make for better relationships. They have learned how to say no, mean it, and have the relationship be ok.
   You deserve to have all of the benefits above. You can have any or even all of them without a coach, with the right relationship coach you can have them much faster and easier than you would otherwise.
   And of course, as you know, I am a relationship coach. Email me and let me know how I can support you to have wonderful relationships.

Clients credit relationship coaching for their newfound clarity about what to do and not to do when dating. They no longer have to worry about whether they are doing the right thing. Clients have learned how to create an environment where great communication happens. More than that, they never have to hold back, put up with something, or stuff their feelings. And neither do their partners.

Many individuals are arranging to work with a personal coach, whose role is a combination of mentor and coach. This is similar to the relationship between a sports person, for example athlete, and their persona coach, and that between individuals and their personal fitness trainer. In the business and professional development world, the result is a hybrid of mentoring and coaching that most people now label as Personal Coaching.

Workplace mentoring is, despite appearances, a structured, organised, element of the organisation’s training and development activity. Mentoring generally takes the form of a confidential, one to one relationship, where a more senior person, at least one position higher than the line-manager of the person being mentored, helps a more junior one to make progress, usually as part of a planned development programme, such as management fast-tracking, preparing for a more senior post, or leading a phase of workplace activity, such as a project.

The mentor offers guidance and advice, in a non-threatening and supportive manner, but in a format and style which is designed by the organisation’s human resource department and then monitored by that department.

The main changes have been in the widening of the range of coaching approaches and the merging of mentoring and coaching into one approach, generally under the title of Coaching. Despite the best efforts of some academics and management gurus, senior managers in some organisations, and the human resource purists, the terms mentor and coaching, and the roles, are now used interchangeably in many business sectors. The main reason for this is that individuals are demanding and expecting their mentor-coach to have a wide range of skills that encompasses the best features of both categories.

If the line manager does not carry out the coaching personally, they will have arranged for an experienced employee, usually within the same team as the person being coached, to deliver the coaching. In this context, coaching is, in effect, the teaching of a skill until the skill is learnt and can be consistently performed, independently, to the required standard. The main changes have been in the widening of the range of coaching approaches and the merging of mentoring and coaching into one approach, generally under the title of Coaching. In the business and professional development world, the result is a hybrid of mentoring and coaching that most people now label as Personal Coaching.

The driving forces behind this are: executives, managers and other specialists are increasingly expected to demonstrate that they are undertaking significant professional development; the workplace and business employment environment is becoming even more competitive; the influence of the emerging industrial nations is forcing radical changes in the skill mix required of managers and other professionals in the developed countries; the diversity of professional and personal skills, knowledge, and expertise needed to be successful in today’s global business environment. There are so many variations and combinations of mentoring and coaching, that it is increasingly difficult to differentiate between them and almost impossible to categorise the variations available.

In an organisational setting, coaching has traditionally been part of the supervisory role played by line-managers, or more experienced employees, who show less experienced colleagues how to carry out an activity, or set of activities, competently. If the line manager does not carry out the coaching personally, they will have arranged for an experienced employee, usually within the same team as the person being coached, to deliver the coaching. In this context, coaching is, in effect, the teaching of a skill until the skill is learnt and can be consistently performed, independently, to the required standard.

You will find that coaching is going to be a partnership that you and your coach are going to learn to do. You are going to be spending a lot of time with your coach and giving them all of your trust so that you are becoming a better and more goal oriented person all around.

If you are trying to get things answered in life you should go out there and be encouraged to make things happen. The relationship that you have with your coach is going to be filled with appreciation and respect.

You should expect to have these items accomplished when you are in a coaching relationship. You are going to see and do many different things but you have to be willing to make them all come true with every single detail that you do. With a coaching relationship, you need to think about having these benefits for yourself:

You will find that coaching is going to be a partnership that you and your coach are going to learn to do. If you are trying to get things answered in life you should go out there and be encouraged to make things happen. You need to figure out what is going to be better in your life and how your goals are perceived each day. It is going to be something that you feel good about in the end and that makes you feel as if you have sacrificed your entire life to make your goals and dreams happen for you in life.

You need to figure out what is going to be better in your life and how your goals are perceived each day. It is going to be something that you feel good about in the end and that makes you feel as if you have sacrificed your entire life to make your goals and dreams happen for you in life.

• You want to make sure that your dreams are realized and that you are honoring all of your goals in life.
• You want to work hard to make your dreams give and happen everything one hundred percent all the time.
• You need to make sure that you are giving it your all and realizing what your potential in life is really about.
• Finding your inner being and what it means to you and your dreams.
• To express your self and who you are completely.
• Go through everything in life that you can and to make things more accomplishable to you and others that are affected by you.
• To find a focus in life and learn what is going to make you a stronger and more desirable person in all aspects of life.
• Be connected with who you are and what is most important in life no matter what you are doing.
  Coaching is going to be one of the most effective ways to find out how to take care of a problem. You need to be ready to experience life and everything that it is about. If you are in control of your life and have the power to be as successful as you can then you are going to want to focus in on therapy and all that you are able to achieve no matter what.

Better brain function with exercise? Not only can you get long-term benefits for your brain from exercise, but you can boost your brain power in the next ten minutes.

Researchers found that exercising had increased the speed their decision-making. It was considered a significant difference (beyond normal statistical variation). They also found that the subjects answered more accurately after the exercise than before.

One study showed that just ten minutes of moderate exercise each day can improve mood and reduce fatigue. Brain function specifically wasn’t tested, but it seems likely that less fatigue means better brain power.

Participants were between 18 and 24 years old, but researchers think the findings will hold true for other age groups.

The thinking ability of subjects was tested in one study. After these tests, the subjects ran on a treadmill for thirty minutes.

Best Exercise For Brain Function?

Notice that ten minutes of exercise is apparently enough to have effects on the brain. While most scientists probably expected to find better brain function from long-term exercise programs, the study using treadmills showed an immediate effect. In other words, get up and run around, and you can be smarter ten minutes from now.

We already knew that exercise was good for sleeping better, a healthier immune system, weight control, and a lower risk of heart disease, diabetes and cancer. Now you can add brain power to that list. Why not take a walk today for better brain function?

Better brain function with exercise? Not only can you get long-term benefits for your brain from exercise, but you can boost your brain power in the next ten minutes. Aerobic exercise seems to be the common element in the studies that have shown improvements in brain function. Notice that ten minutes of exercise is apparently enough to have effects on the brain. While most scientists probably expected to find better brain function from long-term exercise programs, the study using treadmills showed an immediate effect.

The research has focused more on the duration of exercise more than on the specific type. Aerobic exercise seems to be the common element in the studies that have shown improvements in brain function. It’s likely that running, bicycling, swimming, dancing and any other aerobic exercise will have the same effect.

Some people find that walking is a great way to boost brain power. There are the aerobic benefits now being proven by recent studies, but there seems to be something more. When walking, it may be due to it’s relaxing and rhythmic nature that many people report their clearest and most creative thinking.

You can increase your mind power starting today. Here are six things you can try right now or over the coming days to prove to yourself that improved mind power is possible.

Exercise Helps The Brain

Anything that affects physical health in a positive way probably helps the brain too. If you need a brain recharge, walk up and down the stairs a few times.

Temperature And Mind Power

Many people have noted that they think better at certain temperatures. In general, it seems that being slightly cool, but not uncomfortable, is most conducive to good thinking. Try experimenting on yourself to see what temperature works best for you.

Become A Problem Solver

Choose any of the many problem solving techniques and train yourself to use it, and you’ll have a more powerful mind. Use the power of habit to improve your mind power.

Develop Your Intuition

Einstein relied heavily on intuitive hunches. Gary Kasparov can beat the best chess computer even though the computer can calculate positions many moves further ahead because of his intuitive grasp of the game. Experience allows him to combine analysis with a “sense” of which move is best.

A weak chess player will never intuitively beat that computer. When enough good information is in your mind, it will go to work for you with or without your conscious participation, so feed it well.

Sniff Roses or Rose Oil

The idea here is that sometimes you are too “wound up” for effective thinking. Again, I haven’t seen any studies done on this, but it seems safe enough to try.

Adjust Your Mind Power Beliefs

You can increase your mind power starting today. Here are six things you can try right now or over the coming days to prove to yourself that improved mind power is possible.

Gather the evidence for your own mind power and you’ll start to experience more of it.

For this, affirmations may work, but even better is seeing evidence. When you have a good idea, make a note of it. Gather the evidence for your own mind power and you’ll start to experience more of it.

Choose any of the many problem solving techniques and train yourself to use it, and you’ll have a more powerful mind. Use the power of habit to improve your mind power.

Whatever you feel and think about these questions, those feelings and thoughts will have an effect on your brain function, because brain power and psychology are intimately connected.
I love chess puzzles, and I used to think those elegant solutions were not often possible in real games. If you think you can increase your brain power, you are far more likely to do what is necessary to get that result. Now, to apply this to your thinking process:
When you are thinking clearly and effectively, tell yourself, “Look at that brain go!”

What Do You Think?
Can you increase your brain power? Whatever you feel and think about these questions, those feelings and thoughts will have an effect on your brain function, because brain power and psychology are intimately connected.

Expectation
I love chess puzzles, and I used to think those elegant solutions were not often possible in real games. I find the elegant ones more often now.
A man I know spent his childhood with wealthy kids and their families. Is it coincidence that he now makes more money than most of us? He simply feels that a certain level of income is normal, and his mind will always push him towards that level.
Are you beginning to see how expectation and belief can expand or limit not only your mind, but your life? How do you apply this to increasing your brain power?
What Can You Do?
I’ll never say that anything is possible, but what you think you can do certainly affects what you accomplish. If you think you can increase your brain power, you are far more likely to do what is necessary to get that result.
Don’t worry. I’m not going to tell you to stand in front of a mirror making positive affirmations. There is an easier way.
Evidence Is More Powerful Than Affirmation
What you look for, you find, and this changes your mind. Watch for polite drivers for a few days, making a mental note to yourself each time you see one. Watch for rude drivers for a few days, and you’ll begin to see them all over.
You’ll get the point if you actually do the exercise above. You experience the world not just according to what is there, but even more according to what you pay attention to. Now, to apply this to your thinking process:
Find your successes. When you are thinking clearly and effectively, tell yourself, “Look at that brain go!”
Telling yourself you are intelligent may help, but evidence is more convincing than affirmation. If you are working to improve your mind, just watch, and you will find examples of progress, small or however large.

And when your child has poor handwriting in school, their grades can suffer– merely by the fact that their teacher can’t read what they’ve written. It doesn’t matter whether your child writes in print or cursive, as long as you can read what it says.
Have your child practice writing for 15 minutes a day. Make sure your child is writing each word correctly.

She is old enough to know better, but seldom takes the time to slow down and write legibly. How often do you write in a day? And when your child has poor handwriting in school, their grades can suffer– merely by the fact that their teacher can’t read what they’ve written.

I remember being told in junior high that I would have to write in cursive once I reached high school. It doesn’t matter whether your child writes in print or cursive, as long as you can read what it says.
Find out why if your child isn’t writing well. Are they just too lazy to take the time, or are they having difficultly with the letters? You can begin to fix the problem once you know the why.
Have your child practice writing for 15 minutes a day. Make sure they know how to hold their pen or pencil correctly. Pencils or pens should be held with the thumb and forefinger pinching the pen, and the middle finger can go underneath as a rest.
Make sure your child is writing each word correctly. You can find notebooks with the alphabet written inside the cover, and these can be a guide.